Dreaming of a loved one who has died is a natural thing, but that doesn’t mean that the experience can be equally wrapped in comfort, sadness, and horror at seeing them if your dream gives you enough awareness to remember that they are no longer around in waking life.
When you dream of your mother who has sadly died, this can be even more upsetting. One thing that can help when you have a dream where the feelings follow you around all day is to try and explore why you might have had the dream in the first place.
Let’s take a look.
Grief And Dreams
Dreaming of dead loved ones, especially of a parent, is a way of helping you come to terms with the loss.
A dream allows you to confront your pain, anger, and grief in a safe environment, free from judgment (especially your own), and it’s especially useful when you refuse to fully accept their death in waking life.
While dreams like this can simply be an outlet, or they can be upsetting, they can also be more healing than you might imagine.
In some cases, dreaming of your dead loved one can act as a way to keep that connection going, as well as how your loved one might guide you through the trials of waking life.
While it’s not a great replacement for the support, connection and comfort they gave you freely in life, it is still better than nothing.
In others, these dreams can act as a way of mirroring your emotions and feelings, where you’re able to use the dream as a sounding board on how to move forward in waking life. This applies more so if you used to go to your mother for advice before anyone else.
The practice of keeping a dream journal can be incredibly helpful when trying to decide what your dream means to you, as it allows you to record every detail, and you can always revisit it later without the details fading from your mind.
This means that you can take your time when you’re trying to find the interpretation behind your dream, ensuring that you come to the most accurate one possible.
Every detail that you record in the dream journal will help guide you to the symbolism behind your dream, and once you view this information in the context of your waking life and what’s going on, you’ll soon understand what your dream is trying to tell you.
Can A Dead Loved One Visit You In A Dream?
It’s a common belief that dreams aren’t just the sum of our experiences and thoughts, that there has to be another external input, where your dreams may hold warnings, advice, or glimpses of the future that we couldn’t possibly guess on our own.
For some people, certain dreams come from elsewhere, usually created by a supernatural entity, the dead visiting you, or a collective unconscious.
Other people believe that our dreams are only the products of our mind, and can only show you what’s lying in your subconscious.
Or maybe they’re a mixture of both. One thing is for certain: we really don’t know.
While we can’t know for sure, listen to what your gut tells you. What your spirit insists is true. For some people, dreaming of their lost loved ones is a great comfort, as it allows them to continue their connection with those that have passed on.
That might be in terms of reliving a cherished memory or just enjoying what company you can with them.
Keep in mind that while any number of dream interpretations can outline most of the possible reasons why you might have a significant dream, such as dreaming of your dead mother, they are only guidelines.
In the end, it’s you and only you that can decide on what your dream means, using the context of the dream as well as your emotions to inform the significance of your dream.
Reasons Why You Dream Of Talking With Your Dead Mother
You Miss Her
One of the most defining parts of our earliest years is our parents or guardians. Regardless of how good or bad this relationship was, it provides the framework for how you form relationships, how far you’re willing to trust people, and how you will treat them throughout your life.
Some people leave such an imprint on our lives that it’s only natural that they can appear in our dreams even when they are physically gone.
One of the simplest explanations of why you’re dreaming of talking with your mother who has passed on is simply because you miss her.
Perhaps you’re in a situation where you feel you could really do with her advice, help, or humor, and this only makes her absence worse. Maybe you’re becoming a parent yourself, and you could really do with her experience.
Her death has left a hole in your life, and this dream is your subconscious trying to give you what you want, or the next best thing.
Even if your relationship wasn’t the best, where you might have fought often, the pain will still be there, and it demands to be felt.
This can make the grief at the loss of your mother worse, as you cannot reconcile with her. But there’s still work to do, as you can reconcile yourself to the truth.
A Way To Process Your Feelings
Sometimes, dreaming of a dead loved one such as your mother reveals unresolved issues and emotions that your relationship, or her death, created.
This is common in recurring dreams (see also article on dreaming about the same person) of your dead mother, where your subconscious is actively trying to work through these problems.
Pay attention to the details of your dream, especially if it repeats itself. Is it possible that your dream relives a single memory or conflict? Or does it represent doubt about your overall relationship?
Perhaps there’s something that you never got to ask her, and you’re still wondering what the answer would have been.
Or you discovered something recently which puts your whole relationship into an entirely different light. Maybe your dream can give you a better understanding of this, and why it happened, or why you never knew to begin with.
While dreams like these are likely to surface just after the death of your mother, there’s no concrete rule for how long grief takes. It takes as long as it takes. Sometimes, these dreams can occur after you’ve fully processed the death, too.
Often, a dream like this can also be a call, to be honest about your feelings. Not only to yourself but to those you love. Dreams that try to process emotion can’t do it all for you, and you’d be surprised at how much a difference talking it out can make.
Remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, and processing the feelings that surface is one of the hardest things you’ll have to do.
Searching For Guidance And Comfort
Sometimes, a dream of the dead doesn’t actually hold any specific meaning associated with your loved one. Instead, your mother in your dream is actually a symbol for something else.
In your dream, your mother’s appearance can symbolize guidance, comfort, and security. You may have a dream like this when waking life has gotten very upsetting and difficult.
Maybe you’ve run into a problem you’d never thought you’d have, like the breakdown of a specific relationship, or the crash of a long-term dream which is no longer possible.
In this case, your subconscious is providing you with what guidance and comfort it can, while also urging you to seek these from those you love in waking life.
You Feel You Can’t Do Something Alone
Seeking someone else’s advice and experience in the wake of a tricky situation is human, and it may be your first thought when things get extremely difficult.
It’s a testament to your relationship if your first instinct was to drop by your mother’s house when things were hard. But, just because she’s gone doesn’t mean that her guiding influence over your life is over.
Sometimes, this connection will stay with you for life, and you’ll always be able to ask yourself what she might say about your current situation, letting the answer inform your choices.
Drawing on your own memories and experiences with your mother can create an effective and accurate reaction or guidance that you’re looking for.
It’s worth mentioning that it is possible that your dream is a visitation dream (see also article titled ‘8 Characteristics Of Visitation Dreams‘), where your mother may actually visit you to offer her advice or support.
Whatever your beliefs about the dead, it’s worth paying attention to the message behind your dream, as it will have some insight that’s worth applying in waking life.
When you have a dream like this, note down as much detail as you can about what happened in the dream, and what your mother’s advice was. You may be surprised at how accurate it can be.
You Recognize Your Mother’s Traits In You
In dreams, some people serve as projections of our own subconscious. They may not represent themselves, but our idea of them, and these two things are worlds apart.
Your mother in your dream may actually represent part of yourself that you need to acknowledge or pay attention to, and this is especially true if you recognize your mother’s personality on your own.
Perhaps a situation in waking life calls on you to ask yourself what your mother would do, as it might be appropriate to act as she would. It may even be the solution you’ve been looking for.
For example, you may remember your mother as a fierce person who never let anyone take advantage of her, and your dream calls on you to do the same, where someone is trying to manipulate you in waking life.
Or, if your mother was a very kind and generous person, your dream might urge you to show kindness to someone you feel doesn’t deserve it. Maybe that’s the way forward.
If you dream of arguing with your deceased mother, this represents an inner conflict between different parts of your psyche. Maybe this rift is caused by trouble in waking life, or this conflict is the source of your worries.
Dreams like this often occur when change threatens your current way of life, where you’re unsure if things will get better or worse. Maybe you’re torn between two different goals or trying to follow your dreams or fulfill your responsibilities.
In which case, your mother symbolizes one desire that you’re leaning toward, though the rest of you argues against it.
These experiences are a way of your subconscious exploring your fears and options, and giving your uncertainty and frustration a voice that you might refuse to in waking life.
Trust In Yourself
While it’s common to dream of your mother giving you advice in your dream when she’s no longer around, another interesting dream to look for is that of your mother asking for your guidance.
A dream like this suggests that you don’t need to look for other people for guidance and take that as gospel. Instead, do some introspection as well, and find the answer in your own thoughts rather than others.
This might sound like a lonely thought, but it’s not trying to steer you away from asking other people for help. Instead, a dream like this invites you to explore all avenues, but make sure that the voice you listen to is your own.
Only you can decide what is best for you, and by recognizing your own capabilities, you’ll go much further in life than you might expect.
As parents and guardians are among the first authority figures we encounter, these people can represent power and authority in our dreams. Think of a time when your mother caught you doing something you knew she wouldn’t like, and remember the awful guilt that came with it.
In your dreams, your mother might represent your regret or disquiet over your own choices, especially if she was angry or disappointed.
Pay attention to the details of your dream. If you were in your workplace, and your mother was shouting at you, this represents how you’re anxious about your career or a move you’ve made in your professional life.
If you dream of your mother shouting at you in your childhood home, this may simply be a memory, or it could also point to unresolved issues in your childhood still affecting your present life.
For some, a dream where you disappoint your mother represents letting yourself down, and everyone that you love. If you’re unsettled by your own behavior or choices lately, this is your subconscious calling you out, and urging you to do better.
A dream where you talk to your dead mother (see also article about ghost dreams) can be upsetting, but it can also be a great comfort.
Dreams like this are a reminder that those who love you are never really gone from you. After all, their love, your shared experiences, and your love for them are still with you if nothing else.